Signs of September

Kids are back to school. Wait, what! Did I really write that. Where did summer go. Am I really ready for the routines and the early mornings, and alllll the driving!? Either way- it’s here.

We have had a year of many years; and our year is far from over, but hopefully heading in the right direction. It is amazing to me that even through a summer of less adventure than normal, the time still ticks by at the same rate. It still flew.

Last night we sat down with the kids and started something new: We asked them what their intentions were for this school year; In sport and school, what are they looking to achieve and how that would look to them. We plan to check in on these part way through the year and then at the end in June. I have recently begun journaling my daily gratitudes as well as setting goals for the next decade. I realized that this isn’t something just for me. This is something that will, I believe, open our kids eyes to a world that they haven’t yet begun. To future planning, to follow through, to seeing how, when you actually want something bad enough, there is a way to keep working towards it.

It definitely enlightened me. All too often we look at our kids through the light that they portray when frustrated, tired or not getting their way. Amazing how in those moments they are no longer 7, 9 or 11…and they are instantly 2 again. And yet, when you sit with them, when you really talk with them, spend time with them, the insights that they offer are blow you off your own seat level!

A few intention highlights they spoke of were: to make new friends, to make a certain team despite current setbacks with the need and desire to try harder, to worry less and find calm more… They had to choose something that had a tangible end although the process to get there intangible, and elicits behaviour change along the way.

Not only did we learn of what their expectations of self are, we also asked them what they were grateful for this summer. In despite of all that has been happening in our house, they were still able to make memories, laugh, love and have gratitude.  Keats Camp, Cultus Lake, some beach time to soak in the sunshine and ocean; Sometimes its the times that amount to the bigger moments- something I have to remind myself of and was thankful to be reminded of, that even to kids grandeur isn’t always better…

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Life sometimes reminds you that you aren’t always in the drivers seat. It needs to slam on the brakes to allow you to take a pause and look at who your are and what you have. From these past 6 months, I am grateful for the family that I have: For the man that has stood by me for the past 20 years and who I will continue to always stand by. I am grateful for the three amazing humans we have created, for the love I have for them and for what they teach me everyday about themselves, about life, about myself. I am grateful for our house that we have built into a home. A safe place for us all to feel content. And I am so grateful for the pool we put in last year…. This summer it was WELL USED.

So School Year 2019/2020…. bring it. We are ready. Arms wide open to embrace what you have for us. To let us learn, grow, love…. and maybe just laugh a little more than the past few months.

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Living in Fast-forward

Well, that was a long pause…like a few years. But anyways, lets move along. I am back to this space, excited to document, to write, to communicate, to share- to remember.

Life. Life has been full-er than the usual the past 5 months. But those past 5 months are what have landed me here again, seeking for more of me amidst partnership and parenthood. I have lots to share, teach and learn from what I have experienced over the past months; but those stories will slowly unfold as I become more present in this place. More present within myself.

School is back in session in two weeks, which means we only have 2 weeks of summer left! Our summer has been a little lacklustre this year, but I am determined to send it out on a high before our schedules become madness again and I put the Uber decal back on the window…only problem: we live in BC where there is no Uber, my kids don’t tip me, and my car would never pass the clean test after the bomb that my kids unleash on it daily.

In all honesty, life has been hard for a while. But it is the hard that makes us rally together, find strength, determination and passion and move to higher ground. I am ready for the challenges ahead. I am ready to be more present in my own life: To be the best wife I can be: To be an extraordinary mom.

So here I am. I am back.

The Struggle Is Real…

Why is it so difficult to find the perfect denim short. On my search, the more women i talk to, the more feel the same struggle!

There are MANY options to choose from out there and the struggle to find the perfect pair is next to impossible. Hindering my ability to find true perfection are a few key issues: they are either too short, too long, too baggy, too boyfriend or too mom (insert the high-waisted fad here).

the great debate

the great debate

I want a pair that makes my legs look hot but not sexy for school pick-up. I want a rise that covers enough without giving me flashbacks of the 80’s mom-wear… sorry, I know its in, but for me, I can’t and won’t pull it off.

Depending on your shape and size brings a whole slew of ‘why can’t i find the perfect pair’ complaints and so, here we go…the search for the perfect pair.

Length

A guideline to begin the process is at least a 3″ inseam. Desiring short cut or long- add or subtract 😉 Mid-length is the universal length of flattering on all body types. If you are short, you may be able to add apparent height by wearing a perfect rise and a higher waist – yes, I said it. There are SO MANY options out there for the short shorts and they are a GREAT way to show off your legs… more specifically if you are long and lean. A low-rise is great for those with a short torso giving the illusion of a longer / taller you!

NOT following the 3" inseam suggestions- these true religion are staying pool side!

NOT following the 3″ inseam suggestions- these true religion are staying pool side!

Citizens- border line for length....not loving them.

Citizens- border line for length….not loving them.

You can go from 0 to infinity on the price chart with your denim…and more doesn’t always mean better. As mentioned above, it’s all about YOU, your shape and your goal to rock those shorts and show some leg.

I pulled out all my denim the other day having a ‘war with my closet’ as my husband refers to it. You know, when almost everything you own comes out and fills the floor, bed, closet counter..laundry bin 😉

I have styles from American Eagle, True Religion, 7 for all mankind, Citizen of Humanity, Rag & Bone…and more. The point is, the price points are all over and have no contention on the fit and fav- and this year, my running contenders are…

rag & bone boyfriend

rag & bone boyfriend

seven- last last contender- not a fav...but not THAT bad...

seven- last contender not a fav…but not THAT bad…

rag & bone

rag & bone

 

 

 

 

 

 

For me, the Rag & Bone seem to be the perfect mix of length and loose/tightness…the only real issue for both fits it, they stretch. Future purchases of these denim shorts will be at least one size smaller.

The middle contender is the Seven denim. I am hit and miss on the cuff, and find these aren’t too bad. The fabric is very soft and tends to hold its shape, so for now, these are my top three picks.

Now your turn #showmeyourdenim “favshorts

What are your go-to denim shorts and why!! I have a feeling this may be the clothing item that always leaved you looking for better perfection 😉